Making a Regular

Chase Kelly —  September 13, 2012 — 2 Comments

Anyone who dances knows that the best money comes from being a stripper who attracts regulars.  I want to tell you how I do it.

The other night I had a customer the who was really sweet.

He had been going through a really hard time.  A bad divorce, some time locked up, lost his kid to his ex, working 60 hours a week at a job he hated, and NO strip club experience/etiquette.  Typically an annoying guy, but since it was early on a Sunday, the club was really slow, I decided to go talk to him.  It seemed like everyone was avoiding him because he was sitting in a kind of unapproachable spot, but I assume that’s only because he wasn’t really comfortable.  He had heard about my club on the radio and decided to come out for our Sunday happy hour special, which is $10 dances all night.  People with no strip club experience make the perfect regulars, because n one has gotten in there and burned him, given him too much for too little, or fucked him up some other annoying way.  I decided it was a perfect opportunity to take on the project of converting him to my regular.

I was really sweet and patient, showed him a great time, gave him some heartfelt advice, and took 2 shots with him (a serious limit for me).  On $10 dance nights I still always charge $20, but a lot of customers who hear the ad expect to pay the “sale” price.  Here is how I get around that.

“So this is really only your second time at a strip club?  Do you know how it works here?”

Even if he knows, he is going to prompt you to tell him.  He wants to hear your menu.  Dances here are typically $20 anywhere in the club, but options are key.  People gravitate towards the middle ground, so 3 choices is best.

“So, since it’s Sunday, we are running a $10 dance special.  They take place here in your seat, there is absolutely no touching, and I leave my top on.  We can also go against the wall back there, and those are $20.  We also have private VIP dances, which are way more intimate, allow touching, and are really fun.  Which do you think you want to do?”

He chose the $20 dances, and we did a few.  Then I gave him a massage for awhile, and charged $10 a song.  Eventually I excused myself because I was bored of him, and could feel his attention wavering.  The club had picked up, so I went in search of greener pastures.  I knew I showed him a great time and he’d want to see me again, so I offered my email, even though he is FAR from a regular.  It was actually his first time in a club since the 90’s.  Today I received an email from him.  It read as follows:

Hi Chase. Hope all is well with you. This J the guy with the skull

hat. I was there Sunday.   Just wanted to say thanks alot! For taking

your time and talking and being real. You made my night. You and the

drinks got me loosen up. So I went with it and had fun. dance with

others to. Nice place! easy going. Stiil I had best time hanging with

you. Send me a line as to when you work and if its not a work night

Ill come out. dont worry I wont hang on you. I know you need to work.

Thanks very much for your email. very sweet.  Hope to here from you.

take care, have fun.

J

How lovely.  It feels nice to help someone when they are having a hard time.  Sometimes people just want to relax and have fun, and I am lucky to be professional and personable enough that I can feel okay about charging for it.  If you take someone who is down in the dumps for a ride, take all of their money, and treat them like a trick, you are a shithead.  Don’t be a part of the problem, people already think we are thieving whores, that’s why they don’t care when we get raped or murdered.  Being a good person is your responsibility, we need you to help us get the respect we deserve!  I know that I am not a negative thing for this guy, so taking his money is A-OK.  There are lots of occupations in which you get paid to help people, and dancing can definitely be one of them.  It really is one of the more exciting and rewarding parts of the job, to be able to give someone who never gets to smile a great night.  Sooooo I did that for this guy, made a regular, and then got to write an awesome blog about it to share with you all the ins and outs of how to be successful, ethical, and rich young ladies!  How good is life, can you tell me?

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Founder of SurvivetheClub.com. I have been dancing for 9 years and have been working in clubs and the adult industry in general for 14. Survive the Club is my passion project and I have faith in our community. Looking to increase the odds of EVERY sex workers' personal and financial success.

2 responses to Making a Regular

  1. 

    Hi There,

    I am a dancer who reads your blog before every shift, and I must say that this line: “Don’t be a part of the problem, people already think we are thieving whores, that’s why they don’t care when we get raped or murdered.” is super messed up!

    Not only does it imply that its cool to kill prostitutes, “whores”, or full service girls, it also ignores the fact that sexism (although we benefit from it monetarily) is acutely to blame for the fact that dudes don’t care when we’re raped and murderedDon’t be a part of the problem, people already think we are thieving whores, that’s why they don’t care when we get raped or murdered. Moreover, a “whore” is way more likely than a stripper to be raped and murdered.

    Where’s the sex worker solidarity in that?

    • 

      I think there is a slight misunderstanding. What I am trying to say is that much of the world views us in a very negative light. I don’t think it’s OK when we get raped and murdered, but just turn on your TV or a comedy radio station and you’ll hear dead hooker jokes left and right! It’s AWFUL.

      I am certainly not saying that we are thieving whores, I am saying not to BE thieving whores–although I don’t think any women are whores, really. I hate that word, but I was using typical first world terminology to make a point. I think we are magical unicorns from outer space sent here to make lonely people’s lives better and to build a community of women so powerful and positive that we change the stigma! I am just saying that the stigma exists. Unfortunately, like many stereotypes, ours is born from people’s experiences with us (and the media portrayal.) Lots of women even perpetuate hatred of other women, but I certainly am not one of them! Sexism is a part of why we are raped and murdered, that is why it is so important to fight sexism! Safety should be top priority for us, because as much as I hate it, we are targets. Second priority should be to not steal or act like an asshole, perpetuating the stereotype and giving people OK not to respect us!
      I am anti-slut shaming and I would NEVER suggest that it is OK to kill anyone, certainly not my friends.
      I just want everyone to act right, so that people realize that we are human beings. Changing the stigma is something that we can do! No, we shouldn’t have to, but we CAN, so we should!

      Thank you so much for reading, I hope you are finding it helpful, and thank you for the comment! I truly apologize if it caused offense. Community is my priority, and I would never want someone to feel as though I was shaming my fellow sex workers! All one, homegirl!

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