I’m a nosy person, so I keep an eye on what y’all google that lands you here at SurviveTheClub.com. Mostly it’s “How to be a stripper” “Become a stripper” “How to strip” “Learn To strip” “Stripper Tips”, etc, etc. but today I saw a really interesting search that landed a girl here, and maybe it’s something we need to talk about. This girl googled “can stripping ruin my career?”
While what you do in your personal time SHOULD be your business, and you shouldn’t be judged for it, the reality is that if you want to keep your life a secret, find one of those jobs filling out online surveys online and NEVER LEAVE YOUR HOUSE. If you want to get into the adult industry in any way, I have to tell you that people WILL find out, and they WILL have opinions. Whether it’s your coworkers or your family members, the risk is high that people will at some point condemn you either publicly or privately for being a stripper. In my years in this industry, I have seen girls get thrown under the bus by siblings, stalkers, former classmates, frenemies, nemeses, and my personal favorite: their boyfriends. The fact that you dance, if you choose to keep it a secret from your coworkers or family or significant other, will inevitably become ammunition for anyone who ends up “in the loop” of your life. Your secret can become your greatest weakness, as secrets often do.
Maybe if you traveled to work and told no one about your job, you could get away with it–maybe–but this job is very isolating and not having anyone you can talk to about it could drive a sane woman mad. If you decide to dance and you don’t want people to know, I highly recommend a therapist who you can vent to about work. If you ARE going through this experience all alone, you might consider getting active in some online communities. Rebecca has forums for girls who are in enrolled in stripper school and there are also some forums on stripperweb. I have met a couple girls who swear by sticking to yourself at the club and in life in order to keep yourself as “normal” as possible, but if you’re like me, normal isn’t as important as happy. I feel blessed to have experienced the good times and the bad with friends. Having the freedom to be “out” about my job has made me less vulnerable to stigmatization and self-hatred through this leg of my journey. I’m not sure if I could have handled juggling dancing and building a career. The stress of being found out and taken down would be too strong.
The great conundrum about dancing is that it’s too “grown up” for most girls under 24, but a good chunk of girls over 24 are too “grown up” to jeopardize their reputations with the label. Do you have experience juggling work and a job? Share your stories in the comments. We need to talk!