How to be a stripper is not all you need to know when it comes to the industry. If you have been dancing for 5 years or 5 days, you need to write your exit plan, starting today. It is automatic to become accustomed to stripper money and require it to survive. Even if you are one of the low earners at your club, chances are you have the ability to make more now than you would if left to rely on your other resources. Isn’t that why you chose dancing, come to think of it?
Your exit plan is simple, it consists of 4 things:
-How much money does it cost me to live?
-If I weren’t dancing, what would I like to be doing to earn money?
-What does it take in order to actually “do” step 2?
-How much does it cost to “do” step 2?
Answering these questions is the first step to actually making your dreams come true. No matter how much you are enjoying dancing today, we need to loudly state that this is not your life goal. For years I wanted to be a stripper when I grew up. Now that I am a grown up stripper, I realize that the future of this industry just isn’t for me. Dancer into my 30’s? Sounds palatable enough, but dancer into my 40’s just in’t* gonna work.
The reality is that this job is stressful and dangerous. While I hope nothing bad ever happens in your dancing career, or in your life for that matter, it’s important to be realistic. Bad things happen to everyone, and this job can create you a safety net to help get you through the really awful things, some of which are brought on because of the job itself.
The day my dad died, I swear I wish I could have traded in my gucci shoes for a flight to Phoenix to be with my mom, but Southwest doesn’t accept scuffed flats for flights. I had no money and no plan to deal with the hardship I was going through. I had to dance that entire month to pay my bills. The same thing happened when I got mugged on my way home from work, and when I went through my big breakup, and after I went past my limits with a customer and had a breakdown. I can’t tell you what it’s like to have to give even one lap dance when all you want to do is curl up in a ball and cry. Having to do it night after night so you don’t end up homeless is unbearable. UNFUCKINGBEARABLE.
PLEASE, don’t do this to yourself. If nothing else, prepare for 3 months of living expenses. 3 months is the ABSOLUTE MINIMUM amount of time you’d need away from dancing if god forbid something awful happened to you. Going back to work when you aren’t ready can cause extreme mental damage, even if you aren’t aware of it at the time. Hindsight is 20/20 and I am here to tell you that you will need to undo that damage if you insist on inflicting it upon yourself. Sometimes, it can never be undone. If you want to really do something amazing for yourself, please email me. I will walk you through the foundation of the program I am writing for you guys. It’s not finished yet, but I can help you get on the path now if you can’t wait another second.
Lack of planning led me down a very dark tunnel that landed me in a very dark pit of despair. Even if you think dancing doesn’t affect you on an emotional level, all it takes is one small shift to change that forever. The entire reason I write this blog is because I want to help you avoid the pain I put myself through. Girls like us, we just didn’t have anyone to show us how to do it right. Instead of beating yourself up, instead of feeling hopeless or stuck, take just one simple step to give you some strength. Get yourself a savings going and use it to fuel your way out of this place, once you’ve milked it for everything it has to offer you.
*I just created an even lazier way to say “ain’t,” which is either indicative of me being an extreme over achiever, or on the flip side, an extreme under achiever. Food for thought.
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