Q: I work at a very nice club. I live conveniently close, and I get treated well by management and I love all the house girls .. Here lately they have been hiring some less classy girls and the energy and vibes in the club have been off. I’m finding it harder to stay positive and stay all night and work. Please help!
A: If you really love your club, try and talk to the managers. Go in and speak to the GM specifically, and be humble. Understand that strip clubs are a business, and dancers are the club’s best customers. If a club has 20 dancers a night and charges $40 a night for each girl, they will make $290,000 each fiscal year.
When I first realized this, I was really angry, but then I realized that business is business, and if you can’t beat them (I for one am very angry with the girls suing clubs for charging house fees), join them.
We are in a partnership with management, so when approaching them, make sure you keep this in mind. Be articulate and let them know that you understand the business and money is everyone’s objective. Understand that more girls for them equals more money, but explain that when they saturate your market and lower their standards, it hurts your money. Desperate girls can really hurt your profits. Once your manager knows that you understand his or her point of view, they will be more likely to hear you out on yours. If you have always been professional and you are consistent and polite to your coworkers and have been a generous tipper throughout your career, this is when it pays off. Then ask your manager if you can work at a discounted house fee. There are clubs where I have never paid to work, just tip outs, and I have never had a manager deny me a negotiation.
Also, without getting too involved, try and be kind to the other girls. Unless they are the tweaker girls who latch on and will never leave you alone, a kind smile and a little bit of understanding may change your whole perception, and if you are nice to them and they see you making a lot of money, you can help them clean up their acts a little just by setting a positive example. Remember that a lot of the most depressing girls in the industry have a really shitty story, and what you are dealing with them is NOTHING compared to what some of them go through on a daily basis. With this understanding of the entire situation, you can change your mindset. Also, if you are nice to the new girls, they are more likely to listen to you. You can say, “Hey, girl, you don’t have to do all that, here. These guys will pay you just to talk!” or “I just don’t understand why girls get so close to guys on the floor. If you make him wait until he’s in VIP to touch, the time passes so much quicker!” You are going to get more flies with honey than vinegar. When girls who have a rougher life perspective, they’re just doing what they think they have to do to get money. Show them a better way; EVERYONE wants to work smarter instead of harder. You can tell them about my website and other dancer websites–I am about to get some stickers ordered and you can plaster them on the lockers-maybe they just need someone to take the time out to teach them a better way.
Don’t repeat to yourself over and over that there is no money because of xyz, just stay your positive, beautiful self.
If none of this works, you can always considering looking for clubs in other cities and going away for weekends to work. Lots of cities are still doing well, find one you love and go there often. If you’re a top tier girl, you should have no problem getting hired!